Hey Annie,
I’m not sure what to write to you because I’m still not sure how to feel. Part of me is mad at myself. But I think that most of me is mad at you. And I’m sad and confused and lost. It’s so unfair to lose such a bright and bubbly soul. You don’t just get to choose this and expect me not to be mad.
It’s been more than a month and I still hate myself everyday, I still miss you immensely every day. I take Ativan to sleep and I take Klonopin so the pain isn’t quite as severe. I wish you knew how much I missed you.
I wish I knew sooner what you were feeling. I keep replaying Wednesday night in my head. The way you acted so normal, and that you didn’t ask for any of the help or attention you deserved. I keep seeing your smile, which could light up and entire room. I miss my friend, and I don’t know where she went. And I know you will have a place where your ashes are, but I can’t believe that’s where you are now. I can’t believe that you’re stuck in a urn and I’m supposed to move on with my life.
I don’t know how to feel about you. You never told me you needed me. I could have come upstairs. You could have come downstairs. Texted. I would have listened if you just told me you needed me. I want to tell you that I would have come. I would have stayed up all night and hung on tight and not let you go and once the sun rose, we could brave Friday together and get you help.
You also never even gave me the chance to save you. I’m pissed you took the easy way out and left us to pick up the pieces. Didn’t you think that I’d want to do the exact same thing when I lost you? God, every day I think about how if I could go back in time and take my own life before you did, and potentially saved you, I would have. But now these are just words and I can’t do that.
I think about it all the time. And then I thought about how much you damaged everyone now that your life is over. Your poor parents. Your friends. Everyone is broken because you took your life. And I’m realizing that my life isn’t just my own. My friends and family expect me to be in their lives, because I’m important to them the way you are important to me. I have so many things I need to do, that I need others to do for me. I need my mom and dad to see me walk across the stage for graduation. My sister needs me to babysit her children. You need me to let people know the truth of suicide. I’m not going to give up on myself.
Thank you for making me realize the best in life, even though you had to lose your life to do it. Your soul will never be forgotten.
I miss you more than I love ice cream.
Love,
Charlene